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1.Premature
Ejaculation Remedies
FACT: Sexual
intercourse averages two minutes, usually ending
as the male partner reaches climax. However, a
woman requires eight to twelve minutes of constant
stimulation to reach climax. Premature Ejaculation
is the number one cause for shortened sex...
DEFINING PE
The American Psychiatric Association
defines premature ejaculation as "persistent
or recurrent ejaculation with minimal sexual stimulation
before, during, or shortly after penetration and
before the person wishes it." The reoccurring
question remains. What is considered to be shortly
after penetration? Al fred Kinsey state that 75%
of men tested ejaculate within two minutes after
vaginal entry. Does this mean that 75% of the
men tested are premature ejaculators?
Premature Ejaculation cannot
be determined in time frame or by a partners dissatisfaction,
considering that 75% of all women are unable to
climax during sexual intercourse without direct
clitoral stimulation, leaving only 25% capable
of climaxing strictly from direct penile penetration.
Premature ejaculation is an act of rapid, involuntary
climax.
Some cases of premature ejaculation
are more severe, bringing the man to orgasm as
soon as his penis makes vaginal contact. In less
severe cases the man is able to make vaginal entry
and stroke, but unable to maintain control in
high levels of arousal. The voluntary ejaculator
can sustain sexual intercourse in the "plateau"
stage of arousal, maximizing sexual stimulation
as the penis is at its most erect state before
climax.
2.Premature
Ejaculation
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From Jerry
Kennard,
Your Guide to Men's
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Defined
as ejaculating before either partner achieves
satisfaction, premature ejaculation is one of
the most common complaints affecting most men
from time to time. It often occurs early in relationships
when sexual excitement, some anxiety and over
stimulation are common features. It is also more
common in younger men who are finding out about
sexual activity and sexual relationships and men
of all ages after a long period without sex. Premature
ejaculation is rarely caused by any underlying
disease, structural or physical problems.
Performance Anxiety
Performance anxiety may be the major cause and
talking to your sexual partner about your feelings
may well help. Remember it is a common experience
for men and women. Relax more and the problem
often goes away.
Other Techniques to Prevent Premature
Ejaculation
Self Distraction.
If your arousal levels are getting too high and
a climax is beginning, take a deep breath and
think about something else, something very boring
if possible. When you are less aroused but maintaining
an erection you can then continue.
Stop and Start Method
If you find yourself nearing climax withdraw your
penis from your partner and allow yourself to
relax enough to prevent ejaculation. By starting
and stopping sexual stimulation you can learn
to prolong the sex act.
Squeeze Methods
This method involves either the man or his partner
squeezing (fairly firmly) the end or the tip of
the penis for 10 to 20 seconds when ejaculation
is imminent, withholding stimulation for about
30 seconds, then continuing stimulation. This
can be repeated until ejaculation is desired.
The stop and start method can be used with the
squeeze method as well.
Desensitizing Cream
Creams can be used to desensitize the end of the
penis. They act like a local or tropical anesthetic.
Thicker condoms (or two condoms) can also desensitize
by decreasing sensitivity and therefore stimulation,
thus prolonging the sexual act.
More Foreplay
Stimulate your partner to a state of high arousal
before you have your genitals touched, that way
ejaculation and orgasm can be achieved about the
same time.
Masturbation
Practice different methods by yourself. Getting
to know your feelings and sensations gives you
the chance to gain confidence.
Remember getting good at sex and overcoming premature
ejaculation can take a bit of time. Practice makes
perfect. If you find that things are not improving
then help is available from sex therapists who
are experts in this field.
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3.Problems
With Premature Ejaculation
Trigger Happy?
By Michael Castleman
WebMD Answers to
Questions
It's possible that your husband's rapid ejaculation
has gotten him so down that he's withdrawing from
sex. If so, that can be easily remedied. Quite
often, when a man gains good ejaculatory control,
he suddenly becomes much more interested in sex.
And even if he doesn't, it might be nicer for
both of you if he lasted longer.
Faced with involuntary ejaculation,
most men try to distract themselves during intercourse,
believing that by thinking about other things,
they can trick themselves into lasting longer.
Usually, that only makes things worse.
Don't tune out your body. TUNE
INTO IT. You need to become more familiar with
your different levels of sexual arousal. You also
need to recognize how you feel as you approach
your point of ejaculatory inevitability, the "point
of no return." Once you recognize how you
feel close to your point of no return, it's not
difficult to make small sexual adjustments that
allow you to remain highly aroused without ejaculating.
Sexual arousal is a four-phase
process. In the Excitement Phase, breathing deepens
and erection begins. In the Plateau Stage, erection
becomes full and you feel highly aroused. When
arousal builds to a certain point, the next phase
occurs, Orgasm with Ejaculation. Then during the
Resolution Phase, breathing returns to normal
and erection subsides. The key to ejaculatory
control is to extend the Plateau Phase, to maintain
arousal without triggering Orgasm and Ejaculation.
To learn ejaculatory
control:
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Don't use drugs or alcohol. They're distracting
and they interfere with the self-awareness
crucial to learning ejaculatory control.
• Appreciate
whole-body sensuality. Men often think sex
happens only in the penis and only during
intercourse. That view is a one-way ticket
to uncontrolled ejaculation (not to mention
erection problems, and women with those
proverbial headaches). The best sex involves
head-to-toe arousal. Men learning how to
approach -- but not arrive at -- their point
of no return, need to appreciate whole-body
sensuality, the pleasure potential in every
square inch of the body. Whole-body sensuality
releases tension. Tense bodies that have
no other outlet often find release through
involuntary ejaculation. But as you learn
to appreciate sensual pleasure from head
to toe, whole-body arousal takes the pressure
off your penis, and you last longer.
• Whole-body
sensuality means relaxation, but the "relaxation"
involved in great sex is not the kind that
includes an easy chair, a six pack, and
Monday Night Football. It's the kind you
feel after a hot bath or a good massage.
In fact, bathing or showering together before
lovemaking can help men relax and appreciate
whole-body sensuality -- and last longer.
• Breathe
deeply. One very easy way to stay relaxed
while making love is to breathe deeply.
The body has a natural tendency to breathe
deeply during sex. But many men fight it.
They think they should stay in control by
not breathing deeply and making the little
love-moan sounds that go along with it.
But when men work to control their breathing,
they often sacrifice ejaculatory control.
Try breathing deeply. Let your breath go.
Many men are amazed how much this one little
change improves their ejaculatory control.
• Start
with masturbation with a dry hand. By varying
how you caress your penis, you can learn
to stay highly aroused for quite a while
without coming. When you feel yourself approaching
your point of no return, simply back off
a bit, stroke yourself more gently or not
at all, and stay aroused without ejaculating.
Then as you feel yourself getting a little
distance from your point of no return, return
to more vigorous self-stimulation. Repeat
this several times over several sessions.
Approach your point of no return, then back
off. For most men, it doesn't take long
to develop good ejaculatory control while
alone.
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move on to masturbation with a lubricated
hand. Use saliva, vegetable oil, or a commercial
sexual lubricant. For most people, lubricants
increase the sensual intensity of erotic
fondling. Follow the same program: Masturbate
until you approach your point of no return,
then back off. Repeat this several times
over several sessions.
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you have good control during masturbation,
and appreciate whole-body sensuality, and
feel comfortable breathing deeply during
lovemaking, then you're ready for the couples
program -- if you're in a couple. The couple
approach is called the "Stop-Start
Technique." First, arrange "stop"
and "start" signals with your
lover, for example, a light pinch or tap,
or a tug on an ear.
• Then,
your lover strokes your penis by hand as
you lie still. When you approach your point
of no return, give the "stop"
signal. Your lover immediately stops stroking
you and simply holds your penis gently,
as you continue to breathe deeply and pays
close attention to the sensations you're
feeling. When you no longer feels close
to ejaculation, gives the "start"
signal, and your lover begins stroking you
again. How many stops and starts should
you do? A half-dozen over a 15-minute period
works well for most couples. Do what feels
comfortable for you.
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With stop-start, the focus is on the man.
He's the one learning the new skill. But
don't forget the woman's sensual needs.
As part of each practice session, she might
guide your hand over her to show you what
she likes.
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Once you've gained good ejaculatory control
with your lover's hand, try the same stop-start
procedure with oral caresses. Again, you
begin by lying still.
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Once you've gained good control orally,
feel free to start moving. You're making
love again -- but now you have ejaculatory
control. Congratulations.
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are some other suggestions for lasting longer:
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The man-on-top (missionary) position can
be fun, but it's harder for most men to
control their ejaculatory timing, because
they have to hold themselves up. Try making
love with the woman on top. This position
is more relaxing for men, and it often helps
ejaculatory control.
• Make
some noise. Love moans help men (and women)
relax, and they often help men last longer.
• It's
important to understand that learning ejaculatory
control takes time and practice. You may
feel a little awkward along the way. Try
to maintain a sense of humor about any accidental
spills.
• Some
penile skin creams advertise that they help
a man last longer. These products contain
topical anesthetics that dull sensation
in the penis. If you like to play with penile
sensation, there's no harm in using them.
But they're not a good idea for learning
to last longer. They dull sensation. But
the key to lasting longer is for the man
to become more familiar with what he feels
so he can back off from his point of no
return while still remaining highly aroused.
• Finally, the program we recommend
for learning ejaculatory control is very
likely to provide your lover with greater
sexual enjoyment--but not just because you
last longer. Women generally prefer leisurely,
playful, whole-body, massage-oriented sensuality
that includes the genitals but is not limited
to them. Women's main complaints about men's
sexual style are that it's too rushed, too
mechanical, too eager for intercourse, and
that it focuses only on the breasts and
genitals. Women generally feel that the
whole body is a sensual playground, and
can't understand why so many men explore
only a few corners of it. Like women, penises
generally prefer leisurely, playful, whole-body,
massage-oriented lovemaking. The rushed,
penis-centered, intercourse-fixated sex
style puts a lot of pressure on the penis,
and leads to premature ejaculation. But
when men make love the way women prefer,
whole-body arousal takes the pressure off
your penis and you last longer. Basically,
if men would make love the way women prefer,
women would have fewer complaints, and men
would have fewer sex problems.
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